When Your Relationship Gets Rocky…
Find your Footing Again.
Facing the end of a relationship?
You are in excruciating emotional pain, and the experience is some mix of drowning and having a limb cut off all at the same time. Sometimes the emotional pain shows up as physical pain as well - a literal heartache, muscle aches, or back pain. You’ve also lost your appetite or find yourself eating more than usual.
You’ve had sleepless nights in the grips of a panic attack, because for the first time in a long time someone isn’t lying next to you. You fear that you might die, that this experience may well be the death of you, and worst of all you will die alone or leave behind children that need you.
You’re a strong person with lot of interests, but you have a lot of shame around quickly leaving good relationships or not leaving toxic ones. You just want to stop repeating the same patterns.
Relationship difficulties are super common
With almost half of all marriages in the US ending in divorce, the experience of the end of a marriage is super common. Many relationships are severed every single day. Regardless of whether you or your partner were the one who initiated the end of the relationship, it is an incredibly difficult experience.
Yet, you look at the people you know who have went through this, maybe even your ex, and think that they seem to be doing great. Why is this so hard for you? You think you should be able to recover from this experience on your own.
The problem is that you don’t know if those people really are doing as well as they appear to be. Who knows? Maybe they are seeing a counselor too.
Here’s where I come in
Each of us has an innate capacity for healing and wisdom. My job is to help you understand and connect with that healing and wisdom.
When I was going through my own divorce, I had several counselors tell me to leave my partner before I was ready. I committed to never do that to my clients. We will work at your own pace towards the goal of your choosing. Whether your goal is to work on yourself while staying in your marriage or to heal post-divorce, I am here for you.
I provide a safe and compassionate environment for you to be able to explore what brought you to this point and how to move forward. I’ll ask some clarifying questions, summarize what I am hearing and seeing, provide some evidence-based helpful hints, and use other techniques like EMDR to help you get unstuck.
I work with individuals to assist them in working through their grief of broken relationships, reconnect with their sense of self, and more authentically connect in healthy attachment with others.
To be clear: I don’t work with couples. If you would like to work through relationship patterns with your partner and a couples therapist, I’d love to provide some referrals to excellent couples therapists in my network.
You worry that if you start crying you might never stop…
That you may very well fall into puddles of grief on the floor. You fear that you might be too far gone for counseling to help you. At the same time, you think that maybe there is still a chance you can handle it on your own. You don’t want to jump the gun but you also are miserable and looking forward to recovering sooner rather than later.
I know what it is like to wonder if you will get through this and feel almost certain that life will never be the same. Yet, I know something else too - You will get through this. You won’t always be weighed down by this grief and pain. You will see the other side.
You don’t have to lose yourself in relationship.
Becoming a whole and authentic individual is not out of reach.
If you want to not just move on, but move forward into deeper healing and growth, I’d love to help you get there.
